Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves the most.
Acts 10:9-16, Acts 10:25-29, Matthew 19:13-15, Matthew 5:38-42, Matthew 6:19-21
The 7 Habits of a Party Starter
- Invite someone new to the table.
- Fast forward someone else’s dream.
- Inspire every kid you meet.
- Create beautiful spaces.
- Speak up for someone else.
- Discover life together.
- Do something you don’t have to do.
- The more fascinated you become with the differences in people in this world, the more fascinated you will become with God.
- Rich people aren’t generous. Generous people are generous.
- You are never more like Jesus than when you sacrifice for the sake of another person’s future.
- Every time you see a kid….make them LAUGH, make them BELIEVE, help them DREAM.
- Leverage your voice in the right way, for the right reasons.
- How you walk with the broken is more important than how you sit with the great.
- At the center of the issues are real people. Your neighbors.
- No party can heal your community like the right neighborhood party.
- Your faith is personal but it is not private.
- You don’t do something because you feel like it…you do something in order to feel like it.
- If you only do what you have to do, you limit what you do.
- The first mile fulfilled an obligation. The second mile started a party.
- When you invest in someone, your heart follows. Don’t confuse the order.
- God made you to party.
- Everything you dream, hope and pray is linked to how you love and serve others.
- If you want to really live, you have to learn how to live for someone other than yourself.
“Our problem is that we have entire sections of our bookstores marked self-help, but we have no sections marked help others.” -Simon Sinek
- Read the quote from Simon Sinek. How is finding our life’s purpose tied to our willingness to love and serve others? Why do many of us never unlock our purpose?
- Consider the people that you invite to your parties, join you at the table or appear in the photos stored on your phone. What level of diversity is present in this group? What occurs when we only surround ourselves with people just like us?
- How does one know when they are viewing people as projects? What is the danger in holding this view of others?
- Read the 7 Habits of a Party Starter. Which of the habits do you feel you excel at? How did you develop this habit in your life? Reversely, which of the habits do you struggle to live out? Why have you been reluctant to become a party starter in this way?
- Read Acts 10:9-16 and Acts 10:25-29. What did Jesus want Peter to understand about people? How did Peter become a party starter in this story?
- Read Matthew 19:13-15. What can we learn from children about being a party starter? How can we be party starters who have a legacy mindset?
- Read Matthew 5:38-42 and Matthew 6:19-21. What do we miss out on when we only obey out of obligation or to meet the standard of what’s required of us? What do we learn about ourselves, others and God when we go the second mile?
- How can you begin to create beautiful spaces in the places where you are planted? Where do you need to bring hope and make people feel welcomed?
- Who doesn’t have a voice that you need to speak up for? Why did this person or people come to mind?
- What is one step you can take right now to fast forward someone else’s dream?
- Where are you only responding or obeying out of obligation? What is causing you to just do the bare minimum? What would it look like to go the second mile in this situation?
Instead of building a wall, build a bigger table.
Matthew 23:27-28, Matthew 22:1-10, 1 John 4:17-21, Luke 15:11-32
- Sometimes people need your love and acceptance more than they need your advice and opinion.
- A party is any effort to celebrate, serve, or enjoy each other in a way that adds value to life.
- Sometimes it takes a party to change how we see each other.
- Jesus loved parties because Jesus loved people.
- Sometimes it takes a party to demonstrate that God cares about people who party.
- Sometimes it takes a party to confirm we can always be forgiven.
- Sometimes it takes a party to prove that people matter more than opinions.
- Sometimes it takes a party to remind us that everyone is invited to the party.
- Every table is an altar.
- Faith is meant be lived.
- There has never been a more important time in history than right now to start acting like we believe everyone is invited to the party.
- Too many of us act like everyone is NOT invited to the party.
- Jesus doesn’t segregate. Jesus integrates.
- Loving God affects how we love others. Loving others affects how we love God.
- Parents are programmed to teach kids what to believe. What if we started coaching our kids how to love and serve?
- How are Christians viewed as it relates to fun and freedom? Why does this tend to be the picture people have of Christ followers? Do you think this assessment is valid?
- Too many of us act live everyone is NOT invited to the party. How does this statement convict you? What causes you to not invite some people to the party?
- How do we make loving others a lot more complicated than it needs to be?
- Read Matthew 22:1-10. Who received an invitation to the party? What does this story teach us about God’s heart?
- Read Matthew 23:27-28. What caused Jesus to have this response to the religious leaders? What did Jesus see within their hearts that broke His heart?
- Read 1 John 4:7-21. Loving God affects how we love others. Loving others affects how we love God. How does the way we treat, care and value others speak to our understanding of God’s love?
- Read Luke 15:11-32. Why did the father throw a party for his prodigal son? Why did the older son rally against the party being held? What did the older son not understand about why there was reason to celebrate?
- Where are you erecting bigger walls? What would it look like for you to build longer tables instead?
- A party is any effort to celebrate, serve, or enjoy each other in a way that adds value. During this upcoming week, how can you be a party starter?
- Sometimes it takes a party to change how we view each other. Who needs to be invited to your party? How could inviting them change the way you see them?
We hold onto hope when we are connected together and anchored in Jesus.
Deuteronomy 6:1-2, Hebrews 6:16-19, 1 Timothy 1:18-19
- We reach people one person at a time.
- The family matters because of its legacy.
- We aim to empower the family and shoulder the struggle.
- The family is established so our children’s children will know God as God.
- An anchor provides stability and security regardless of the circumstances.
- The rope is what connects the next generation to the hope they need. The rope is the relational connection to the church.
- The most important thing we’ve been given is hope.
- The emphasis of God’s work is generational in nature.
- We set the bar too low if our objective is to just raise low-maintenance, fully functional kids.
- The next generation matters to God so they must matter to us.
- As a church who reflects the love of Christ, we must possess a relentless commitment to the generations that come after us.
- Every child needs someone to fight for them and with them.
- There are opportunities out there for us as a church to impact the next generation. We’ve got to go out there and seize them.
- Think back to your childhood and adolescence. How did you navigate trying to find security, purpose and hope during this time?
- How would you describe the climate and culture our children are growing up in now? What are some challenges they face that are similar to what you experienced? What added pressure are they now under?
- What are the implications of our mission (to reach people and help them walk with God) on the next generation? What does it look like to actively invest in the next generation by empowering the family?
- Read Deuteronomy 6:1-2. What is the purpose of the family? What danger arises when the family structure is eroded?
- Read Hebrews 6:16-19. How does the hope of the Gospel provide an anchor of stability for the next generation?
- Read 1 Timothy 1:18-19. After reading this passage, what conclusions can we reach about the battle young people are facing if Paul is encouraging his young protege (Timothy) to “fight the good fight” and “hold on to his faith”?
- Other than your parents, who had the most influence in your life growing up? How did they shape you into the person you are today? How can you thank them for their investment in you?
- What are you doing to invest in the next generation? Who are you investing in?
- If you had the opportunity to speak to the next generation, what would you want them to know and why would you want them to hear that message?
People don’t want to be tolerated, they want to be loved.
1 John 4:18-19, John 17:22-23, Mark 1:40-42, James 4:4-7, Mathew 5:1-12
- We often respond to the issues fueled by our emotions rather than deeply held convictions.
- Fear drives us to our “safe spaces.” We withdraw to protect us from a world we are afraid of.
- On the side of every issue is a human being.
- The best way to understand an issue is by understanding someone on the other side of the issue.
- There is a reason why people see things differently than you. Find out their “why.”
- Labels are intended to divide and segregate.
- Do not try to find your life source in the things of this world.
- We surrender to Christ while moving towards each other.
- The safe space we are looking for is a relationship that rests in love.
- We reflect Christ’s heart when we’re willing to enter the mess of someone else’s life.
“One of the major problems in the modern world is how we are to live with our deepest differences.” -Os Guinness
- Read the quote from Os Guinness. How do we get along with one another while the issues of this world remain unresolved?
- Why do you believe safe spaces have become part of our culture? What is their purpose and why do people head to these places?
- How can one tell if they are responding to an issue fueled solely by their emotions or driven by a well thought out conviction?
- Read James 4:4-7 and John 17:22-23. In what ways does displaying humility lead us towards understanding, connection and oneness?
- Read 1 John 4:18-19. What tends to drive our fears in regards to the issues the world faces? How does perfect love expel all fears?
- Read Mark 1:40-42. How does this story exemplify how Jesus entered the mess of humanity? If Christ serve as our ultimate example, what does this mean to the way we respond to the brokenness around us?
- Read Matthew 5:1-12. How is this passage, and the way it describes how we are to live, a rallying cry to live counter cultural?
- What is the danger in labeling people on the other side of the issue? Where have you been guilty of labeling those that have a different view than you?
- There is a reason why people see things differently than you. Think of someone on the other side of the issue you are most passionate about. How can you take steps to hear their story and understand why they believe the way that they do?
- Over the past five weeks, how has your response to the mad world changed or been challenged? What is the greatest insight you received and how can you take that insight and live it out?
Authority is the expression of humble submission.
James 4:4-7, Ephesians 2:14-16, Psalm 118:19-20, James 3:16, John 17:20-23
- The more passionate we are about an issue, the more submissive we need to be.
- Grace comes to us by submission to the Truth.
- Entering the narrow gate is the way towards freedom. When we enter this way, we quit being the center of our life.
- The system we’re currently using isn’t going to solve the issues in our country.
- Our heart longs to trust something solid. Unfortunately, we end up trusting things that aren’t trustworthy.
- Pride yields superiority while humility leads to more authority.
- If the enemy can’t keep us divided, he will settle for us unifying around anything other than God.
- Trying to get God “on our side” often brings out the worst in us.
- We need to bring our issues to Christ rather than Christ to our issues.
- Our culture has lost the ability to process authority.
- The issues in our world are only symptoms of what is really wrong.
- How is authority commonly viewed in today’s culture? What is the relationship most people, including yourself, have with authority?
- What dangers exist when we attempt to get God “on our side” of the issues? How does this mindset influence our relationships with those on the opposite side of the issue?
- What does it look like to bring our issues to Christ rather than Christ to our issues?
- Read James 3:16 and James 4:4-7. How does pride and humility influence our interaction and the way we handle God’s truth?
- Read Matthew 7:13-14 and Psalm 118:19-20. What does it mean to enter the narrow gate? What happens to our center when we head in this direction? Why is freedom found in this place?
- Read John 17:20-23 and Ephesians 2:14-16. Where should true unity inside the church be found? Why would the enemy settle for us being unified around an issue rather than God?
- Do you believe that Christ can be trusted with His Kingdom here on earth? Why or why not? Does the way you live your life reflect your answer?
- The more passionate we are about an issue, the more submissive we need to be. What issues are you most passionate about? Where is submission needed in your response to this issue and those that it impacts?
- Where have you caught yourself saying, “How can they think or act like that?” in regard to those on the other side of an issue? How can you begin to understand their story and their perspective?
We must surrender what we know to be true to Him who is the Truth.
1 John 2:15-17, James 4:4-7, Matthew 7:13-14, Proverbs 14:12, Ephesians 2:14-16, James 3:16
- We are born to trust. Everyone comes into this world needing someone else.
- Our hearts will remain restless until we find something to support our trust.
- What we see awakens something in us.
- The more we see, the more we want. The more we want, the more we look for it.
- We have to learn how to think redemptively.
- As long as we focus on the issues and continue to ignore what’s at the center, nothing will change.
- Processing what we believe requires us to be still and quiet. Clarity doesn’t come in the midst of the noise.
- He created you for Himself and He’s not going to let go of that very easily.
- There’s no point in having strong views if you only have them in order to put people in their place.
- The madness of this world won’t change by simply winning an argument.
- Grace comes to us by submission to the Truth.
- When you become self-sufficient, you become self-centered. What are some warning signs that you are trying to find your sufficiency in yourself? How does one know when they’re being self-centered?
- How is the church supposed to engage in culture and address issues taking place in our world?
- How do you have strong views about something without putting yourself in the center or putting someone else in their place?
- Where are you winning an argument about the issues but losing a relationship? What makes issues so important to you?
- Read Matthew 7:13-14. How does following the narrowing road lead to life rather than restriction? Why do few people find their feet on this road?
- Read James 4:4-7 and Proverbs 14:12. Why does pride stand in opposition to God? How does pride cloud our judgment and response to this mad world?
- Read 1 John 2:15-17 and Proverbs 14:12. How does the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life play off of our envy and selfish ambition? What cycle does this mindset create?
- What leads you to take things that are true and make them about you (insecurities, the desire to be right, pride, the need for control, etc.)?
- We must surrender what we know to be true to Him who is the Truth. Where are you most resistant to submit yourself to God’s truth?
- What we see awakens something in us. The more we see, the more we want. The more we want, the more we look for it. If this is true, where are your eyes set and what does that say about what you truly want?
The end of self-centeredness comes when you find your sufficiency in Christ.
1 John 2:15-17, James 4:4-7, Matthew 7:13-14, Proverbs 14:12
- When you find the easy way to be hard, it isn’t because it’s hard. It’s because the easy way only leads you towards death.
- The narrow way is hard because it is hard to stay true to what is true.
- The wide road is easy because it seems right and it is easy to believe.
- If anyone loves the Father, the love of the world is not in them.
- We live in a world that has the power to make you think and feel whatever they want.
- You are not going to find what you’re looking for in a hurry.
- We must give up the allure of what is easy and live in submission to what is true.
- We can act on what we believe instead of simply reacting to what we see and feel.
- We’ve been entrusted to care and leverage this world by God. To ignore this call is what leaves us mad.
- The narrow road requires us to slow down, merge and submit everything to Him.
- Think of a time when you found yourself saying, “Life is hard.” Why did you describe your situation in this way? What do you believe was the source of this tension?
- We live in a world that has the power to make you think and feel whatever they want. What are some lies from culture that you fell for? How were these lies disguised as truth?
- How does the allure of this world create madness within us?
- As believers we’re called to walk upon the narrow road. When you hear “narrow road,” what imagery and emotions come to mind? How does your answer influence your willingness to follow this way?
- Read Matthew 7:13-14. What makes the wide road easy? Why is the way of Jesus hard? What actions and beliefs differentiate the two?
- Read James 4:4-7. How are friendship with the world, humility/pride and submission tied together? What connection do they have with each other? Why is grace given to those who are humble but opposition felt for those who are prideful?
- Read 1 John 2:15-17 and Proverbs 14:12. According to this passage, what three things fuel the world? How does the allure of these three things cloud our judgement and create madness in our relationships?
- Where are you finding it challenging to stick on the narrow road and stay true to what is true?
- You’re not going to find what you’re looking for in a hurry. Where do you need to slow down and pay attention? What are you missing by being in a hurry?
- The narrow road requires us to slow down, merge and submit everything to Him. What are you unwilling to surrender? Why are you reluctant to let go in this area? What would surrendering this thing look like?
If madness stems from distrust then sanity comes from trust.
James 3:16, 1 John 2:15-17, James 4:4-6
- Overreaction has become the new reaction.
- Love is the language of relationships and the currency of love is trust.
- The fall isn’t about a broken rule, but rather broken trust.
- The madness of the world is a result of a broken foundation.
- Grace is about receiving what you’ve been entrusted with.
- Trust is a gravitational force. We are pulled in the direction of that which we trust.
- Wherever you find your sufficiency is where you’ll find what is at the center of your life.
- You find your center by pinpointing where you are drawn to trust.
- Self-centered people demand that the rest of the world revolve around their orbit.
- We live in a culture that applauds independence.
- Trusting ourselves drives self-sufficiency. Self-sufficiency leads to self-centeredness.
- Complete the following sentence: The world we live in is _______________. What makes you answer in the way that you do?
- We can all agree that we live in a broken world, yet opinions differ on the cause of the madness. From your perspective, how did the world become broken?
- As we begin this series, what would you say is the key to living sane in a crazy world?
- Overreaction has become the new reaction. How have you seen this statement played out in culture and your own life? What’s the danger with having this type of mindset?
- Read James 3:16. According to this passage, what fuels the discord we experience in this world? Why do these qualities thrive whenever distrust is present?
- Read 1 John 2:15-17. Over the years how have you wrestled with this passage? What does it mean to “love the world”? Why do you think the author used the word “love” to describe our relationships with the world and with God? What connection does love have to do with our relationships?
- Read James 4:4-6. What is wrong with being “friends with the world”? Why does this friendship fuel God’s jealousy? How does our connection with the world influence our understanding of the purpose God has for us?
- What are some typical approaches people take in an attempt to navigate through the chaos? What tends to be your response to the madness?
- Trust is a gravitational force. We are pulled in the direction of that which we trust. What are you drawn to in the middle of the chaos? How does your answer speak to what you trust?
- Wherever you find your sufficiency is where you’ll find what is at the center of your life. Where are you drawing your sufficiency from? How is this influencing your response to the chaos of this world?
Power can force obedience, but only love can awaken love.
John 20:31, John 11:21-27, John 11:32-43
- The Gospel is not the prevention of death, but the gift of life.
- God doesn’t always act the way we think He should.
- Over the years, can you think of a time when you caught yourself saying, “God, if you would’ve _______”? What made you question what God was up to in this situation?
- How did God use this situation to further your trust in Him as well as open your eyes towards His love for you?
- Power can force obedience, but only love can awaken love. Do you agree with this statement? Why or why not? What makes you answer in the way that you do?
- Read John 20:31. According to this passage, why were the Gospels written? What did the authors want their accounts of Jesus to do for those who read them?
- Read John 11:21-27. What was Martha’s “God, if you would’ve _____” statement? How did Jesus respond to Martha’s push back? What did He want her to see and understand?
- Read John 11:32-43. How is Jesus’ compassion displayed in this story? Why do you believe Jesus was moved to display His emotions?
“My faith suffers from too much freedom, to many temptations to disbelieve. At times I want God to overwhelm me, to overcome my doubts with certainty, to give final proofs of his existence and his concern.” Philip Yancey
- Read the quote from Philip Yancey. What causes you, and others, to question God’s heart? What drives this doubt?
- Where does doubt exist in your life right now? How are you processing and dealing with this doubt?
- How can you display faith in the midst of your doubts and questions?
As you understand your story within God’s story, when you share your life you share God’s story.
Romans 1:16-17, 2 Kings 7:3-9, 1 Peter 3:15-16
- People aren’t projects so don’t treat them as one.
- Impact is about your life connecting with someone else’s.
- The Gospel isn’t a simple message – it’s a whole new way of thinking and living.
- Your next step of faith is for the sake of the other steps that come after it.
- Faith isn’t something you graduate from. God will never lead you into being independent of Him.
- You never know how God is going to use you. We are called to plant seeds and trust God’s work.
- People should look at our lives and wonder why we are hopeful.
- When you share your life, you are sharing your story.
- God has you right where you are for a reason.
- You have the most influence, therefore you have the most impact.
- What makes you hesitate in sharing the Gospel, as well as your story, with others? What fuels this apprehension?
- What is the danger in viewing people as projects? How does having this viewpoint influence your approach, motives and actions with others?
- Who had the most impact in your faith journey? How did this individual open your eyes to the freedom the Gospel provides?
- Read Romans 1:16-17. How is the power of our story influenced by our willingness to take a step of faith? Why does our story require faith?
- Read 2 Kings 7:3-9. How does the story of the four lepers speak to what we should do with the good news we’ve been given?
- Read 1 Peter 3:15-16. How should the way we live our lives fuel curiosity in others? If someone were to ask you why do you have hope, how would you answer them?
- When people look at your life, what do they see? How does this picture make you feel?
- God has you right where you are for a reason. If this is true, how are you making an impact in the place where you are planted?
- Who needs to hear your story? Who are you investing in? Why does this person come to mind?
- How has your view of the Gospel changed or been strengthened during “The Norm” series? What was the greatest insight you received? What are you going to do with what you’ve learned over the past few weeks?