Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?
For your ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all your paths. Proverbs 5:20-21
The question, “Why?” is hard to answer. The vulnerable reflection required on our part is the main reason we indulge without even thinking. We don’t want to consider how we are twisting a pure desire like love, significance, success or intimacy and offering our hearts to something less deserving.
This simple proverb poses a simple question. Even though this passage is spoken from the masculine perspective, the point is the same for all of us. Why do we want something less? Why do we want something that we know we will regret later?
What we fix our eyes on determines the direction we go. We simply see this initial pleasure, indulgence or quick fix. We fail to look past to see the pile of regret and the wake of destruction that the path we are enticed by will soon produce.
The last part of the passage seems to pile on us even more. But, that is only due to our limited perspective and understanding. Many of us read verse 21 and think God is spying on us. He is looking through the keyhole hoping to catch us doing something wrong and then whammo, we’re busted.
This is not the view of a God who possesses the heart of a Father. For example, as a father, I attend my daughter’s dance recitals or school plays. From the audience, I watch. I don’t watch for mistakes or critique. My eyes are on her for a simple reason. She is mine. In fact, the first question she asks when she comes off the field or off the stage is, “Did you see me?”
My daughter wants to make sure that her ways were before the eyes of her father. This puts a different perspective on the whole thing doesn’t it? What you see determines the direction you go. When you see the eyes of the Father watching you with a Father’s heart, the things that entice you diminish at the promise of being pleasing to the Father. There is nothing that compares to this so why would you want lesser things?
- Why do we often settle for lesser things to fulfill the desires of our heart?
God, may I not be enticed by lesser things. Open my eyes to the places where I am vulnerable to temptation. Help me to not twist and distort the pure desires you’ve put in me. Before I act, may I pause and reflect on what is driving my behavior or my speech. In Your name, Jesus. Amen.