Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 1 JOHN 4:18
Lately, one of my biggest fears revolves around parenting. I am constantly anxious about how we can teach our daughter the facts of life without her falling victim to the culture’s views on sex, dating and marriage.
During Tony Ferraro’s message last Sunday, he told us that “Fear forces us to disallow God to be God, because we rely on self instead of Him.” This means I need to stop thinking I’m in control, and start really believing in God and relying on Him.
Here are the steps Tony suggested for turning to God with our fears:
- Be real with ourselves. I messed up God’s plan for intimacy in my teens and 20’s. What if our daughter makes the same mistakes? That’s where my fears come from; I am projecting my own regrets onto my daughter’s future. Good to be aware of that.
- Understand the difference between caution and fear. Caution is wise movement; fear is stagnant. If we choose fear around this topic by overly sheltering our daughter, she won’t have the information she needs to take care of herself. Instead we’re trying to move forward by explaining God’s heart for this area of her life.
- Give God all of me. As Tony said, God wants 100% of us because He gave all of Himself to us through Jesus. I take that to mean God wants my husband and me to always be learning ways to talk with our daughter about His plan for sex, dating and marriage. It’s not a one-time discussion. Too important for that.
- Be willing to stand in truth. Culture flies in the face of God’s plan for us. I can’t control my daughter’s decisions, but I can give her God’s blueprint (something I never had), trust her to make good choices, and know God’s grace covers all our mistakes. All of mine and all of hers.
- Is there one fear that tends to dominate your thought life lately?
- Do you have any reason to believe God isn’t interested in helping you in this area?
- What would it look like to trust Him to cast out this fear?
Dear Father in Heaven, thank You for Your perfect love, demonstrated through Christ’s death on our behalf. Help me to abide in You and give you every concern, large and small. Yes, it’s a fallen world, but we can let the light of Your Word pierce the darkness and cast out our fears — for Your glory and for others to see there is a better way. Amen.
PC3 writer Katy Davis wrote today’s devotional.