Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Ecclesiastes 4:11
I can barely feel my fingers as I type these words. My office could be mistaken for an igloo thanks to the space heater shorting out the circuit breaker. With the number of blankets wrapped around me, I am well on my way to my new life as a Sherpa.
Like most everyone in the nation, I’m trying to survive this great winter cool down. The temperatures have dropped to the point where I find myself googling tips on how to prevent my pipes from freezing. Yes, even miles away I can see my northern readers doing a collective eye roll, but you have to understand the frigid temperatures caught many of us southerners off-guard.
To keep my mind off the cold, I began scrolling through Facebook mindlessly at first, but then a thought struck me. There were people I hadn’t reached out to in forever. Even though based on social media standards we were “friends,” my relationship with them had thawed. Some of those connections, if I’m perfectly honest, were downright frozen.
For whatever reason, just like the frigid temperatures, I’m experiencing right now, my cold heart in these relationships had caught me off-guard. But, this is what happens when we don’t tend to our relationships or when we enable pride, fear, apathy, envy or bitterness to win over love and forgiveness.
Those connections go cold and freeze up altogether. Our hearts become the artic. Days, weeks, months, and years go by, and eventually, you find yourself living in the ice age. Instead of walking on eggshells, a lack of crucial conversations has us tip-toeing on cracked ice. There’s no stability or security in living this way. We wrap ourselves up in our excuses and justifications. When we do this, the only thing that heats up is our anger.
There are some relationships where safe boundaries are needed. For others, reconciliation is off the table. But, for most of these frost-bitten connections, the opportunity for things to thaw is possible, and it starts with allowing the warmth of Christ’s love to guide our words, actions, and attitudes. His love can melt the coldest of hearts.
- In what relationship has your heart grown cold? What is driving this bitterness?
- How can you begin to thaw out this connection point?
God, warm my heart with Your love today. Thaw the places where my heart has gone cold. Open my eyes to the relationships that remain frigid and distant. Give me the courage to seek forgiveness and reconciliation where I am able. In Your name, Jesus. Amen.