Make You Like Me (Part 1): Study Guide

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Bottom Line

Relationships are the FRAMEWORK through which LOVE gets EXPRESSED and EXPERIENCED.

Study Verses

Ephesians 4:13, John 17:20-23, John 13:34-35, 1 John 4:8

Key Points

  • We want people to BE LIKE US and we want people to LIKE US.
  • When I can’t MAKE YOU LIKE ME, I will DIMINISH you and work to DISMISS you.
  • Intimacy requires AWARENESS. You can’t SHARE if you’re not AWARE.
  • Intimacy is simply a SHARED EXPERIENCE.
  • Intimacy needs the SAFETY of LOVE. LOVE makes INTIMACY possible.
  • We are built to RECEIVE love as well as created to GIVE it away. 
  • Love is exchanged through a RELATIONSHIP.
  • Love is a force that breathes VALUE and WORTH into another. 
  • Deeper CONNECTIONS create deeper INTIMACY.
  • We love when we GIVE ourselves away for the GOOD of another.
  • To be LOVED is RECEIVING good for ourselves without TRYING to EARN it.


  • What is the purpose of a relationship? Why did God create and design relationships? 
  • As a society, do you believe we are becoming more or less connected to each other? What makes you answer in the way that you do?
  • MAKE YOU LIKE ME. How do you hear this statement? When it comes to your connections with others, which one do you struggle with the most: wanting people to be like you or wanting people to like you?
  • What drives our desire to make people like us (seeking approval and fighting for conformity)? 


  • Read Ephesians 4:13. What insight does this passage provide in regard to the purpose of our relationships? How does our willingness to pursue connections with others influence our faith and overall impact as a church?
  • Read John 17:20-23.  Of all the issues Jesus could’ve prayed for, why do you believe He centered His prayer for the church on oneness and unity? 
  • Read John 13:34-35 and 1 John 4:8. How should the way we treat our relationships cause the world to take notice?


  • What is the greatest tension you tend to experience in your relationships with others? Why do you believe this tension continues to pop up?
  • Intimacy requires awareness. You can’t share if you’re not aware. How would you describe your level of awareness when it comes to yourself as well as your connections with others?
  • How well are you known? Who knows the real you? 
  • How well do you allow yourself to be known? What encourages you to be seen and what causes you to be guarded and hide?

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