Make You Like Me (Part 3): Study Guide

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Bottom Line

Love perseveres by being stronger than our emotions and our circumstances.

Study Verses

1 Corinthians 13:4-8, Philippians 1:3-6

Key Points

  • Love can’t protect what isn’t available for protection.
  • We are made to receive love which means we are always looking for it.
  • Four Relationship Quadrants: (1) Validation (2) Isolation (3) Co-Dependency (4) True Connection 
  • We often settle for attention as a cheap substitute for worth.
  • We are a chronic culture of takers.
  • You can’t wait until you feel completely worthy to ever avail yourself.
  • We are loved by God and free to love other people.
  • Our ability to receive God’s love always manifests itself in extending ourselves to others.
  • Love trusts the process of transformation and growth.
  • Vulnerability is not just for you. Your vulnerability contributes to other people.


  • Over the years what are some places that you’ve looked to in order to find your worth and value? What made these things appealing to you? 
  • How does seeking our value and worth in our relationships often influence the way we approach our connections with others? 
  • In what ways do you attempt to manipulate, demand or take love from others in order to feel valued, worthy and secure? 


  • Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. What aspect of God’s love do you need to experience in deeper ways? How could looking to Him to fulfill this need influence your relationships with others?
  • Read Philippians 1:3-6. What does it mean that love trusts the process of transformation and growth? 


  • Which of the four corners (validation, isolation, co-dependence or connection) do your relationships tend to reside in? Why do you often take up residency in this spot?
  • Think about the people you care about the most. Which relationship quadrant do they reside in? How can you begin to have conversations with them about your self-assessment as well as where you see them?
  • What keeps you from true connection with others? What are you afraid of?
  • Love can’t protect what isn’t available for protection. What part of your heart do you keep off guard from God and others? Why do you keep this off-limits? What would it look for God to protect your heart in this are?

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