We often settle for attention as a cheap substitute for worth.
We are a chronic culture of takers.
You can’t wait until you feel completely worthy to ever avail yourself.
We are loved by God and free to love other people.
Our ability to receive God’s love always manifests itself in extending ourselves to others.
Love trusts the process of transformation and growth.
Vulnerability is not just for you. Your vulnerability contributes to other people.
Over the years what are some places that you’ve looked to in order to find your worth and value? What made these things appealing to you?
How does seeking our value and worth in our relationships often influence the way we approach our connections with others?
In what ways do you attempt to manipulate, demand or take love from others in order to feel valued, worthy and secure?
Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. What aspect of God’s love do you need to experience in deeper ways? How could looking to Him to fulfill this need influence your relationships with others?
Read Philippians 1:3-6. What does it mean that love trusts the process of transformation and growth?
Which of the four corners (validation, isolation, co-dependence or connection) do your relationships tend to reside in? Why do you often take up residency in this spot?
Think about the people you care about the most. Which relationship quadrant do they reside in? How can you begin to have conversations with them about your self-assessment as well as where you see them?
What keeps you from true connection with others? What are you afraid of?
Love can’t protect what isn’t available for protection. What part of your heart do you keep off guard from God and others? Why do you keep this off-limits? What would it look for God to protect your heart in this are?