Small Talk Part 1: Study Guide

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Bottom Line

A simple prayer precedes continual prayer.

Study Verses

1 Thessalonians 5:17, Matthew 6:5-13, Ephesians 1:18, 1 Chronicles 16:11 and James 5:13

Key Points

  • The way in which you pray reveals what you believe about God.
  • Prayer is His presence with us as well as our constant communion with Him.
  • Pick a time. Pick a place. Pray with a pen.
  • When things go wrong, we distinctively lookup.
  • Small talk is the most important unimportant conversation.
  • Small talk prayers are starting points where we connect and explore.
  • Many mistake thinking about God for actually praying to God.
  • God is worthy of our recognition and submission.
  • Do your quiet time as though your life depends on it.
  • You are only ten minutes away from finding the life God has for you.
  • Praying with a pen helps you think about what you are saying.
  • If we want to pray all the time, we must first learn to pray some time, somewhere.
  • We believe prayer is a good thing, but many of us are unsure if it is a necessary thing.
  • Our prayers are more about our relationship than our requests.
  • Consistent prayer isn’t twisting God’s arm, but rather gaining God’s perspective.


  • How have you experienced the awkwardness of small talk in your prayer life? How did you respond to this tension?
  • How would one’s approach to prayer change if “small talk” prayers weren’t viewed in a negative light, but instead seen as a starting point towards intimacy and growth?
  • How would you define a good or bad prayer life? What makes a prayer “good” and what are some indicators that one is doing prayer wrong?


  • Read 1 Thessalonians 5:17. How does developing a discipline of prayer mesh with this passage’s call to “pray without ceasing”? What does it mean that prayer is being in constant communion with God?
  • Read Matthew 6:5-13. What did Jesus want His listeners to understand about prayer? What are some key elements of prayer found in this passage (topics, mindset, focus, etc.)? If we are to let the Lord’s Prayer serve as our guide, what should our prayers center on?
  • Read Ephesians 1:18, 1 Chronicles 16:11 and James 5:13. How do these verses speak to the purpose of prayer being about growing a relationship rather than blurting out a list of requests? Do you view prayer as a place of refuge? Why or why not?


  • As it relates to your prayer life, how would you describe your current connection level? 1 (disconnected, non-existent, silence, etc.) to 7 (vitally connected, intimate, clarity, etc.). What makes you answer in the way that you do?
  • The way in which you pray reveals what you believe about God. How do you think God feels about the way you approach Him in prayer?
  • What circumstances or issues have been occupying your prayers recently? Where are you searching for God’s perspective? What is God asking you to do in the situation you are facing?
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